One thing I reflect on constantly as a counsellor is what sort of environment gives a client the opportunity to grow. As a person-centred counsellor, empathy, congruence, unconditional positive regard are the 'core conditions' for someone to grow. But these core conditions are underpinned by a way of being in the room, known as the non-directive attitude, or non-directivity. So what is this non-directivity which people say is so integral to the person-centred way of being? (1